The “inner child” is one of those concepts that is used regularly yet is a little confusing to think about.
It’s referred to in different ways, ranging from “the child archetype”, to “the child within”, to “the wonder child” to the “wounded child.” or as Hypnotherapist we also use the word "Little me".
Yet what does it mean? And how does “inner child healing” help you make positive changes in your life?
I have to say since I became a therapist this is without a doubt something I always have to work with my clients because most of our root cause issues in life from relationships, finance, lack of confidence, Insecurity, people-pleasing, destructive behavioural patterns, and so on stems from our childhood. Since you were a fetus till you are 7 years old your conscious mind/analytical mind does not work yet. You absorb everything you hear, see like a sponge that's how your belief systems are formed.
When we reconnect with this fragmented part of ourselves, we can begin to discover the roots of many of our fears, behavioral patterns, limiting beliefs, and insecurities.
Since with Hypnotherapy we go directly into the subconscious mind a hypnotherapist can help regress you back in time to see what is actually blocking you and reprogram that. If its a traumatic period in your life you DO NOT have to go re-live that or experience again you will face it just like watching a movie while we do the work on re-programing that story.
I wanted to write about this topic again as I myself got to revisit my inner child the past few days while I was practicing Parts Therapy with my fellow students in class funnily I would keep going back to my inner child when I was 5 years old. The first day of being in boarding school, I've visited her before many times during my own hypnosis and deep meditation to work on relationship issues before which is now resolved as I had abandonment issue stemming from my childhood. (you can read more on this topic on this link https://www.soulfulhealingjourney.com/single-post/2019/07/17/Healing-the-Inner-Child )
This time I wanted to work on feeling overwhelmed from the intense training mostly from having to be up all night due to different time zone even though i tried different techniques to calm myself i was still overwhelmed so during hypnosis I again went back to the age of 5 first day at boarding school feeling overwhelmed after I realized my parents had left me there with all the strangers in school and I had no idea when I was going to see them again. Getting to take your adult self to talk to your inner child, giving your inner child words of wisdom and re-parenting your inner child is so powerful and healing.
Then again the next round i wanted to work on my digestion again I went back to that age again because my inner child feels bored/sad and there was a part of me that was trying to keep me entertained with food however it was actually hurting me physically and emotionally this is when we work on something called Part Therapy and Inner child together.
What is inner child healing?
Inner child healing, or inner child work, is an essential part of inner work, the psycho-therapeutic or spiritual process of changing yourself to become the person you know you can be. On its own, inner child healing reconnects us to the wounded elements of our inner child within.
According to prominent psychospiritual counselor and mentor, Mateo Sol:
“Inner child work is the process of contacting, understanding, embracing and healing your inner child. Your inner child represents your first original self that entered into this world; it contains your capacity to experience wonder, joy, innocence, sensitivity and playfulness.”
This re-connection allows you to access the fragmented parts of yourself so that you can discover the root of your phobias, fears, insecurities, and self-sabotaging inclinations.
Instead of simply finding and looking at the symptoms of your pain, inner child healing will help you go right to the core and reveal when your issues began, and deal with it effectively.
Whether you had a great childhood and regardless of your parents relationship you still have something to work on from your childhood. Alot of families stay together doesn't mean its healthy in fact fighting all the time in front of your kids is very toxic, how your parents handle one another or handle their own emotions in different situations you also learn that from them. When you were a fetus if your mother went through trauma you actually absorb her emotions into you as well this something i had to personally work on as well which was very powerful.
I recently had a client wanted to work on confidence issue when i regressed him back to the source of that emotion it started when he was on the stage and he was 7 apparently the whole audience laughed at him including his friend which instantly made him lose confidence and he became someone that would have a hard time opening a conversation up with new people and new situations. Using the inner child technique we were able to clear that up.
That being said we all must take responsibility for our own life we can't blame our parents because how they are it's also how they were programmed from their childhood. In fact our souls have chosen the parents we will be born with because we all have something to learn from each other.
No matter how your childhood was as a conscious adult now its your responsibility to re-parent your inner child. Every time you react in a way that you regret later, its your inner child reacting.
Inner child healing will be an ongoing journey because its connected to your self love and self worth. In the next blog i will write on how to heal your inner child =)
Since I am writing this in honor of Mother's Day in Thailand I would like to honor my mother who gave me an amazing childhood allowed me to explore myself with my creativity. I am wild, courageous, a risk taker, confident, independent , loyal, in my spiritual path because of YOU. It's only later in life you turned bitter because of your own suppressed inner child and pain all I wish for you is so much love and powerful healing light so you do not have to carry this pain into the next life.
May you be happy
May you be loved
May you find peace in your heart
May you be free from all pain and suffering
P.S. I also would like to point out that my parents did not intentionally leave me there at the boarding school but instead they had the best intention for me for my education and i did had one of the best time and memory from that period of my time as well. I am very grateful I had an amazing childhood but our inner child can perceive things differently. Being in that boarding school getting to explore myself since a little girl from art, sports, play , music, dance i knew my passion since a little girl. This is when your adult self goes back in time to talk to the little you sharing words of wisdom. Things you have learnt, challenges you have accomplished in life so far because life after all is about learning and growing.
Wish you all a happy mothers day whether you are a mother of a human being /fur babies or not YOU are still a mother to your own inner child, take care of your inner child EVERY SINGLE day. Check in with in your inner child, ask your inner child how are you doing? How are you going to celebrate with him/her today?
With love and gratitude
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