You are an energetic being. So when you make a connection with someone, you form an energetic bond. Often these connections, or cords, are wonderful. You may know the feeling of being completely in sync with your partner, a sibling, or closest friends. But there are some connections that you’d prefer to break. Sometimes, even when you create physical distance from someone, you still feel energetically tied to them. That’s where cutting cords can help you.
Cutting cords removes negative connections you have to other people. As you make a practice of severing these unwanted attachments, you’ll begin to feel lighter, healthier, and more like yourself.
What Is Cord Cutting?
Cutting cords is the process of severing negative connections that keep you energetically tied to another person. Negative cords can be formed with anyone, even people you love .The ceremony of "Cord Cutting" is based on the premise that when we enter into a relationship with a person, or even business relationships, and contracts of all sorts, an energetic thread or cord is activated. As we move through life, often these relationships no longer are what we need or want them to be.
Relationships don't have to end, but this allows for new beginnings instead of being trapped in the past. Sometimes, we want relationships to end, such as when you are no longer in a relationship with a lover.
𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩, 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐚𝐧 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝. 𝐈𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐞𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫. 𝐎𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧, 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬, 𝐨𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫. 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐮𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝, 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞r.
Here are some examples of cords you may want to cut:
people you want completely out of your life
social media followers who have attached to you without your knowledge
loved ones who are sources of drama
those in your life who are needy, envious, or have bad intentions toward you
It’s important to note that cord cutting is all about breaking NEGATIVE ties. Bonds of pure love can never be broken, so it’s safe to cut cords of attachment even with people you deeply care for. You’ll still be connected, just in a healthier way. Think of cord cutting as a way to set energetic boundaries for yourself.
How To Identify Cords of Attachment
So how do you know if you have a cord with someone that needs to be cut? Here are some signs to look for:
They emotionally drain you
When you think of them, they contact you out of nowhere, or
They pop into your head for no reason
You fear running into them, or feel the need to avoid them
The person is at top of mind right now, as you’re reading up on cord cutting – trust your intuition!
When it comes to the people you know, the need to cut cords is usually pretty obvious. But it’s totally possible to have picked up cords that you’re not even aware of. With this said, it’s not necessary to know where all of your cords are coming from. Cord cutting is all about intention. So if you simply focus on cleaning up any/all negative ties, that’s enough.
How To Cut Cords
There are several ways to cut cords. Here are the top 5 ways to break those unwanted ties and recall your energy. Use your own intuition based on the situation to determine which method is best for you. All of these cord cutting rituals should be done with reverence and love, for the greatest good for all involved.
1. Visualisation+Ask Archangel Michael to Cut Cords
Reiki practitioners work with Archangel Michael as he is an absolute master at cutting cords. His job is to protect and serve! He’s often shown holding a flaming sword with a blue flame – the perfect cord cutting gear! If you’re comfortable working with angels, try this prayer.
Make your client visualise the higher self of that person in front of them in their mind’s eye ask them where in their body they feel heaviness, tightness or tension when they think of that person then let them visualise dark cord of energy flowing from that part of their body to the other person's body (if it was a sexual partner let them visualise from the sacral chakra) and ask them to say this prayer Archangel Michael, please cut all energetic cords that do not serve me. I trust your judgement completely as you sever all ties that drain my energy. Thank you for this gift.” Then visualise Archangel Michael cutting the cord with his blue sword see the cord drop onto the floor into the earth so it can be transformed into something neutral.
Take a few deep breaths in and out with your client “breathe in taking back your power, exhale, release all that no longer belongs to you. Do this three times. Then let the client visualise golden healing energy of light flowing from their heart to that person’s heart in this light flows only healing(forgiveness, love, compassion) Do this process if they are at the stage of forgiveness already.
Continue to let the client visualise the light and repeat either of this prayer“I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank you” OR May you be happy, May you be in peace, May you be loved, May you be free from pain and suffering” see the person accept the blessing with a smile on their face and see that person sending that blessing back to the client. Tell the client to accept it with a smile and continue to visualise the golden energy of light until all they can see , feel in the other person is pure gold light which is the true essence of who we are all. Then release that ball of light back into the Universe.
NOTE: Do explain and refer back to the forgiveness chapter what is the true meaning of forgiveness
Smudging, or burning sage is a tried and true method for spiritual cleansing. Indigenous Americans have been smudging (or burning dried herbs) to banish negativity for centuries. A modern, and safer version, is to use a liquid smudge spray. We’ll explore both here. Let’s start with traditional smudging.
bundle of dried sage
sage shell (or smudge bowl)
lighter or matches
Method: Pull back the twine that binds your bundle so it doesn’t catch fire. Hold your sage bundle at a 45 degree angle in your non-dominant hand and light it. After about 10 seconds, blow out the flame you created, and allow the embers to continue burning. The smoke will rise from the bundle. Pick up your feather with your dominant hand, and make circular sweeps with it, wafting the smoke toward toward your face, neck and chest area. You can waft the smoke through your home to clear all negativity from your surroundings.
While you’re saging, affirm: “I cut all negative cords of connection and recall my energy now. May all negativity be cleared from my sacred space and returned to the earth for healing.” Then, place the sage bundle in its shell and let it burn out on its own.
If you live in an apartment (don’t want to set off the smoke detector) or if smoke bothers you, opt for a smudge spray instead.
You’ll Need: smudge spray
Method: Give the bottle a good shake and hold it at arm’s length. Close your eyes and mist your crown, face, neck, and chest while inhaling deeply. Exhale and repeat as you feel guided. In your mind, repeat the affirmation above, or the one that comes printed on the bottle. You can also use Clear The Air as a room spray: mist your front doorway, bedroom, or anyplace where you want to clear negative memories or emotions.
A smudge spray mix sample of sage, myrrh, wintergreen, and a sprinkle of sea salt to banish negative energy.
3. Freezer Method
This method carries a vibe of ‘finality’. So if you’re just dealing with a pesky loved one with boundary issues, choose a different option. This is best for ending relationships.
Method:Write the person’s name on a piece of paper. Hold the paper in your hands and affirm: I am grateful for the lessons I’ve learned from this person, and am ready to release them fully. All cords of attachment are now frozen. Fold the paper up, place it in a bag, and bury it in the back of your freezer. This is a powerful and symbolic gesture that will help break unhealthy patterns from repeating themselves.
4. Take a Salt Bath
Salt is another natural element that helps to draw out negativity. If you’re a bath person, this is definitely the most enjoyable way to cut cords!
Epsom salts/ himalaya salt
Organic lavender oil
Method: Draw yourself a bath, adding about 1/2 cup of Epsom salts to the water (you can use sea salt as a substitute) and 4-5 drops of lavender oil. You may also choose to light a candle, surround yourself with crystals or even burn your sage while you bathe.
As you soak in the tub, set your intention to wash away all cords that don’t serve you. When you drain the bath water, envision all the negative energy you’ve released going down the drain.